Deserving

It's been in my mind, for quite a while, that sometimes we take for granted our loved ones.

I didn't have a good example of what a happy marriage should be growing up. But when I met Derek, I knew I wanted to be perfect, because to me, he was. Well, obviously after 9 years of marriage, I realize he's not perfect, but he's perfect for me. And I want to be that for him too.

I constantly have these thoughts -My husband has everything to make him happy. A loving wife, a beautiful and smart child, and a great job that he enjoys going to. He deserves every happiness because he's a great husband, father, and he works hard. But, do I deserve him?

I'm a stay at home mom. I have meals ready for my husband at lunch and dinner and sometimes, when my husband gets home, it's spotless. But there are times when he gets home that, well, it's obvious that I was lazy. Dishes on the counter, toys on the floor, dogs jumping on him because they need a walk.

One day, Derek said, if I was a stay at home dad this house would be spotless. And it kind of hit me. He's so right. If I was out working and came home to a mess, I'd be disappointed. He doesn't deserve that at all! I need to step up my game! It snapped me out of it. I still have my lazy days, but I do my best to not let my mood burden my husband. 

I WANT to be a perfect wife. I'm not. I'll never be. But I'm still working on it everyday. And I want to be appreciated for it. And by trying, I'm showing my husband I appreciate him. Maybe I do deserve him... 


... do you deserve the person you love?

We ALL deserve love, but do we strive to be everything to that person. To make sure they aren't burdened with our choices or habits. I know so many people whose other half has no desire to be their everything. Quit smoking for that person. Eat healthier for that person. Stop spending so much money. Sacrifice material things so you can have a secure future. Stop being so lazy. Give them more back rubs. Give them more smooches. Don't be angry. Don't be controlling. Be apologetic and sincere. Curb your temper. Surprise them with little things. Let them live a dream. Let them explore and learn and grow. Stop sabotaging their diet. Stop being stubborn. Stop being 'right' all the time.  Stop cheating on them. Give them support! Hey, they might not deserve you but if you love them... Set the example and don't be spiteful.

And by that I mean, if your spouse forgets an anniversary gift don't purposely not do something special for him/her on their birthday to prove a point that it hurts... in fact, do something EXTRA special for your loved one, to show how good it feels to be remembered and loved and teach them how to treat you.  If you love back rubs, then be more touchy feely with your husband and he will learn to reciprocate. Don't hold out because you want to throw a fit and be spiteful... The more attention I give to my husband, the more he gives to me. 

Oh, and I realize it's easier said then done. So many of these things are hard to control. Some things are so ingrained in you deep down you wonder if it's possible to change. Sometimes, I think it's rude for people to say, you need to change... but I have to say, do it if you need to. Don't be so full of yourself because you think you shouldn't have to change. If what you do is burdening your loved one... why not try?

Why PINK?

When I was 5, I hated the color Pink. Pink or Blue was everyone's favorite color and I wanted to be different. I wanted to be unique and special. So I loved Green and Purple. I didn't even like the Pink Power Ranger. The Yellow Power Ranger was my favorite because EVERYONE like the pink one! I just love silly kid brains. But eventually, Pink sucked me in! How can you not love a color so bright and happy?


When I was 11, I made my first email account. I had no idea what username to choose. The person who helped me make my account said, what do you like? Well I love Dragons! And just the night before I had a dream about a pinkdragon. So my very first email, and same email to this day is pinkdragon.


When I was 14, I transformed from a tomboy to a young lady, and I'll never forget the day I did my hair and I wore a pink shirt and a boy at school said, "WOW Beca, you look good." I felt the power of the pink! From there on, pink was my favorite color.

Sabrina is the light of my life! I was thrilled when I found out I was having a girl and now, pink is everywhere! I have the excuse I need to fill my house with pink stuff and get away with it.

When I was 18, I got my first Mary Kay facial. I knew all about Mary Kay because my mother had used Mary Kay products as I grew up. Mary Kay and pink go hand in hand. Pink Cadillac baby! The lady who gave me my facial had a pink Cadi, so I already was in awe of her, and she presented me with the Mary Kay opportunity. I knew instantly it was what I wanted to do as a career. But I just couldn't see myself as an 18 year old being a sales lady. I had little job experience, and the few jobs I had were awful! People just continually treated me bad and I didn't know how to stick up for myself at that point. So I never signed up for Mary Kay, but I knew eventually, I would, and I did! When I was 25! Seven years after I first heard the marketing plan. I already loved pink, but now I'm surrounded by women who love it too! Mary Kay Opportunity


Through the years, I've gained an average of 10 pounds per year. After having a baby, I gained about 25 extra pounds. I topped my highest at 210. As I sat watching Dr. Phil, he showed a book called The 17 Day Diet. I bought it. I lost 25 pounds! But I just didn't follow through. So the next year, when Dr. Phil showed The Pink Method... I really wanted to get it. I love that guy! I trust his advice! But, because I never follow through with anything weight loss related, I decided not to spend my money on it. But it was flashy and PINK and I thought... this is so meant for me! So about 2 weeks after I saw this show on Dr. Phil, I applied to be on the show, and I was chosen!! Dr. Phil and his staff and the creator of The Pink Method chose me! They gave me the program, along with a lot of other goodies to help me on my weight loss journey.
It's been incredible. Too long of a story to explain on this post. But I've met hundreds of women through the PINK Method. It's become my way of life. So yet again, I'm surrounded by women who live PINK. The Pink Method


Pink is my favorite color. It's also my life. I live Pink everyday with my daughter, my business, and my healthy lifestyle.


So to start, now you know the basics. I'm Rebecca and I love Pink.